Miracle Mornings Day 6

June 24, 2015 in Uncategorized by admin

After yesterday’s miracle morning’s deep dive into my own dark feelings, today’s morning was much more pleasant. Thank goodness! Today I tackle a new issue, a much more practical one, having the children home from school with me. You see… I have been blessed with early-rising kids. They are also night owls, believe it or not. So they go to bed late (during the summer anyway). And… they are also getting up early. So, I am running into challenges getting enough sleep myself, while maintaining some boundaries around my miracle mornings. To really get the benefits of the miracle mornings, I need silence. It’s the quiet reflection time and mental and emotional space that helps create the “miracle” of the miracle morning. So, early-rising, night owl, children has left me with a challenge. How do I get my boys to bed early enough, that I can get myself to bed in time, to rise early enough, for a silent morning, while still having gotten enough sleep to function? (How’s that for a run-on sentence?)

While this is a bit of a challenge. I love the mundaness of this problem vs yesterday’s deep dive. I will gladly take this one on with a smile on my face.

I do still have to fight back the propensity to beat myself up for the fact that my miracle mornings have not been done perfectly… far from perfectly, actually. I have not been able to get a full, completely dedicated 60 minutes in, without interruptions yet. This is partly due to poor planning on my part… OK… mostly due to poor planning. But, I hadn’t counted on my boys both going to bed late, and getting up early. For some reason I believed they would need more sleep than that. But it seems like I am the only person who lives here that needs much sleep. I’ll save exploring why that is until tomorrow morning’s “miracle”.

Until then… I hope you have a great day! I’m heading upstairs for a workout. After I get my blood pumping, this sleep things should be a piece of cake to solve. 🙂

By the way… I should let you know about my morning meditation. Today’s excerpt was on detachment, and it reminded me of something I learned from Sarah Petty, and have heard many other times during my life. Sarah recommends, when selling your portraiture, to be “committed, but not attached”.  What I have come to believe this means is, to be completely committed to serving the best interests of your photography clients, without any attachment to their buying decision. This sounds simple, but when trying to apply it, can be a challenge. I have found that the most difficult part of this is putting aside my own interpretation of what will “serve my client’s best interests”, and acknowledging my own agenda. In my mind, a wall portrait or album will best serve my photography clients. But that is not really always the case. I have found that to really follow this philosophy of detachment, what I really need to focus on is being present. If I am completely present with my client as they are viewing their portraits, and making their buying decision, then I can truly hear what they are telling me, and assist them in making choices that will be best for them. It’s very easy to get side-tracked by our own wants and needs in a sales session. After all, what we earn as photographers is directly linked to what our clients spend. But I have found that by getting my own wants and desires out of the way, I can truly hear what will best serve them. This can be really difficult when you have someone who cannot afford you in a sales session. And, I believe, this is one of the main reasons why photographers make concessions and discount their photography. I believe they really do want to serve their photography clients, and they believe their client cannot afford the pricing they have set. So, one of two things is going on here that needs to be worked on. 1. Your photography business is attracting clients who cannot afford you. or 2. You do not value your work enough to believe that it warrants what you are charging. Your job is to figure out which issue you have so that you can solve it. The solution to the first issue is to find ways to attract more appropriate clientele. The solution to the second one is to work on your own thoughts, feelings and beliefs about yourself, your art, and your pricing.

There is no better feeling than working with a client to get exactly what serves them best, and it perfectly aligns with the numbers you desire for your business.  There are a lot of components that go into making this happen, only one of which is the “committed but not attached” principle, but once you figure this out… your photography business will soar, and your purpose in life (from a photography business perspective) will be fulfilled.

What challenges are you experiencing in your photography business? Have you figured out how to be “committed, but not attached”?